1: be involved -
Its hard to imagine what its like to be your partner.
Their body is growing, changing, and it is VISIBLY obvious how hard they are working. It can feel very overwhelming to try to jump in and get really involved.
BUT it is important, so here's a few tips;
1: If you can't go to appointments, make a point to ask about them.
2: If you don't understand something, ask about it.
3: If you don't want to read a book, audio books or podcasts are great.
2: when in doubt
if you learn anything from today, let it be this.
YOU know your partner. That is your super power that no birth professional has.
Tap into how they like to be cared for when sick, or what their love languages are. That is a great place to start for knowing how to support someone through birth.
3: verbal support
Take some time in the third trimester to discuess with your partner what birth mantras or affirmations they would like to hear. Here are some examples:
You ARE doing this
Breath to our baby, you're so strong
Release your shoulders, your jaw, and take that rest
Your body was meant to do this
I am right here for you, breath with me
You've got this, you've come so far already
4: physical support
NUMBER ONE TIP HERE:
Be prepared to have about a 50% failure rate. Don't take anything personally, just shake it off and try something else. Get comfortable with your partner saying they like, or don't like some things.
You can try: Hip squeezes, Sacral pressure, Massage, hair stroking, hand holding, cool cloths, warn cloths, or encougage them to use water. Looking for more direction: Sign up for our Birth Partner Prep Course! Link is in our bio. Use code HELP for 50% off
5: It really does take a village
if your intuition is telling you that being her sole emotional support during a birth is too much for you, or you're worried you may let them down; hire out!
Doula's are an amazing option to support you both. Its like bringing google, Coles notes, and a Birth trainer to your birth! It is priceless, and husbands/partners are always our biggest celebrators.